a. Physical violence or pressure, such as but not only:
Includes but is not limted to:
(i) Harmfull Leading
– A dancer who consistently leads or dances in a way that causes their partner pain or discomfort, especially after the partner has expressed their concerns, will be in violation of this rule. This includes insisting on specific moves, like ganchos or lifting poses, after the partner has said no.
“We all know tango is about connection, not a wrestling match! It’s wonderful to come together, share our best, and create those special moments that grow with each tanda. When we truly listen and understand each other on the dance floor, we’re not just dancing—we’re making the entire event more enjoyable and memorable for all of us. It’s in that mutual respect and flow that the magic of tango really happens!”
(ii) Unwanted Close Embrace
– Forcing a close embrace after the Partner has verbally objected or has clearly indicated their discomfort by pushing the Dancer away.
“Tango is all about connection and comfort, so let’s respect each other’s boundaries! If your partner expresses discomfort or prefers some space, it’s a chance to switch to a style that feels good for both. When we honor each other’s preferences, we create a more enjoyable experience for everyone. Let’s keep our embraces open to changes and our hearts open to everyone!”
(iii) Physical Aggression
b. Social violence or pressure, such as but not only:
Includes but is not limted to:
(i) Imposing Obligations
– A Participant or Dancer must not insist that their Partner owes them something or is obligated to them simply because they danced together for one or more tandas, or for any other reason.
“Tango is a gift we give to each other with no strings attached! Each tanda is its own unique experience, and the best dances happen when we’re free to enjoy the moment without expectations. Let’s keep the exchange light, respectful, and filled with mutual appreciation.”
(ii) Unsolicited Teaching
– A Dancer instructing their Partner is not allowed on the dance floor at any time, and is only allowed outside the dance floor with the partner’s explicit request.
“Tango is about feeling, not teaching! The magic happens when we focus on connection, not correction. Let’s save the tips for when they’re truly wanted, and just enjoy the dance for what it is—a shared moment of joy and expression.”
A Dancer instructing their Partner is not allowed on the dance floor at any time, and is only allowed outside the dance floor with the partner’s explicit request.
(iii) Persistent Dance Requests
– A Dancer repeatedly asking for a dance directly without cabaceo-mirada after the Partner has verbally objected, or continuously requesting a dance without cabaceo-mirada from various Participants.
“The invitation to dance is a beautiful ritual, truly part of the dance itself. When our eyes meet and the cabaceo happens, as we walk together to the floor, anticipation, mutual respect, and agreement are already shaping our dance—before we even embrace or take the first step.”
(iv) Demanding Explanations
– Approaching someone outside the dance floor and claiming that the approached Participant owes Him/Her an explanation or is obligated to Him/Her for any reason.
“When someone chooses to dance with us, they’re giving us their presence, and that’s something to appreciate. Let’s respect that moment and enjoy it for what it was. By valuing the time we’re given, without pushing for more, we create the possibility for that moment to happen again in the future.”
(v) Reputation Threats
– Threatening or implying that a Dancer would act in a way that could damage another Participant’s reputation.
“Let’s keep our dance community strong and supportive! Tango thrives on trust and respect, so it’s important to uplift one another rather than create negativity. By focusing on encouragement and positive interactions, we contribute to a joyful atmosphere where everyone can shine and grow together.”
c. Sexual violence or pressure, such as but not only:
Includes but is not limted to:
(i) Unconsented Touching
– Touching any parts of a Partner’s body not included in the embrace without the Partner’s explicit consent.
“Tango is all about connection, and that includes respecting each other’s personal space. When we focus on consent, we create a comfortable environment where both partners can fully enjoy the dance. Let’s celebrate the beauty of our shared moments while honoring each other’s boundaries!”
(ii) Unconsented Kissing
– Kissing a Partner during the dance without the Partner’s explicit consent.
“If you’re unsure whether kissing your partner crosses a boundary, think of a light social kiss for your beloved grandma. If you feel more passionate than that with your partner, it’s a good idea to check in on their enthusiasm first. This way, we respect each other’s comfort levels and maintain a safe and enjoyable environment for everyone!”
(iii) Persistent Questions
– Asking additional questions after the Partner or another Dancer has refused an offer to have sex or go to a hotel or other place: (e.g., “Why not?” “Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?” “Where is your husband/wife now?”).
“Respecting a simple “no” fosters a comfortable and positive atmosphere for everyone. A confident and genuine individual understands that pressing for explanations isn’t necessary. By letting relationships develop naturally, we inspire trust and earn respect from our partners”
(iv) Coercive Offers
– Offering any hypothetical or real privileges or benefits in exchange for sexual advantages.
“Tango is built on mutual respect and shared joy, not on expectations or transactions. By keeping our interactions free from pressure or coercion, we create an environment where genuine connections can flourish. Let’s celebrate the dance for what it is—a beautiful moment of trust and harmony between two partners.”
d. Psychological violence or pressure, such as but not only:
Includes but is not limted to:
(i) Skill Criticism
– Criticizing a Partner’s dancing skills, style, attitude, or expression during a dance, either verbally or non-verbally (e.g., making sounds like “tss,” using negative gestures, releasing the embrace and giving a disapproving look).
“Tango is about enjoying the moment and connecting, not about perfection. By focusing on the shared experience rather than critiquing each other, we create a more welcoming and supportive environment. Every dance is a chance to grow together, and a positive attitude makes the experience much more enjoyable for both partners!”partners can fully enjoy the dance. Let’s celebrate the beauty of our shared moments while honoring each other’s boundaries!”
(ii) Public Insults
– Kissing a Partner during the dance without the Partner’s explicit consent.
“If you’re unsure whether kissing your partner crosses a boundary, think of a light social kiss for your beloved grandma. If you feel more passionate than that with your partner, it’s a good idea to check in on their enthusiasm first. This way, we respect each other’s comfort levels and maintain a safe and enjoyable environment for everyone!”
(iii) Surveillance or Stalking
– Engaging in surveillance or stalking behaviors toward another Participant.
“Tango is about trust, freedom, and mutual respect. Giving each other space and respecting personal boundaries allows everyone to feel safe and comfortable. When we focus on building genuine connections, we create an environment where everyone can enjoy the dance without any worry or discomfort. Let’s keep it light, respectful, and open!”
